Low Self Esteem Dating

It’s really important to me to be as accurate as I possibly can regarding how to be successful with women, and it’s especially important for me to convey the “big picture”.

Probably the most important element to the “big picture” is the idea of cherishing your self-esteem more than anything else. Absolutely nothing is worth sacrificing this, for ultimately, being successful with women should only help ENHANCE the way you feel, not make it worse.

The irony is that conveying high self esteem actually is ATTRACTIVE anyway, so it’s really a win-win situation.

Once you train yourself to observe, then everywhere you turn, you can see examples of people with high self esteem and people with low self esteem and how this MASSIVELY affects the way they behave, and the way it impacts their ATTRACTIVENESS to other people. Before I continue, let me make it clear that I don’t judge people so fast, because this society makes it pretty damn easy to fall prey to low self esteem, honestly we live in a very sick society that brainwashes people to think they are worthless unless they are whatever society says they should be in order to have personal worth.

Onward: Please pay attention here, because this has a LOT to do with being successful with women as well, in a HUGE sense that will affect your entire life.

For example, I used to work as a personal trainer. At the gym, I would see these guys who basically stop their workout completely in order to chat with whatever half-decently attractive girl was there. These guys basically feel that this is their only opportunity to meet women, because the women are kind of a “captive audience” since they have to be there. So the guy follows the chick around the gym, and gets no real workout himself.

This ALREADY CONVEYS LOW SELF ESTEEM, in the sense of having a scarcity mentality, having the self concept that women wouldn’t want to speak to them in any other environment, and probably not even there at the gym either but at least the women there are “forced” to listen, etc.

All this stuff REEKS of low self esteem. Women can pick this up instantly, it’s obvious to them.

Low self esteem conveys LOW PERSONAL WORTH. It conveys lack of desirability.

Yet ATTRACTION is all about conveying that you are DESIRABLE. So what happens 99 percent of the time? The guy gets no workout, and gets no girl either.

Now let’s flip that around. Take the same guy, and let him IGNORE the women at the gym, let him do his workout, let him focus on HIMSELF first, let him NOT BE NEEDY and NOT FEEL THAT WOMEN ARE “SCARCE” and now he will start to ENJOY his workouts, he will start to REALIZE the value of working out in terms not only physical, but MENTAL, because exercise is a great way to get into a POSITIVE MENTAL STATE and feel BETTER about yourself naturally, and release natural endorphins, etc.

Trust me, NOW that same guy can go up to a woman at the gym and have him strike up a short conversation that’s FUN and not needy and not manipulative and forced. (Yes, the HOW to do this takes some know-how-that’s what you learn in from the book and in person services and what you get a glimpse of in these newsletters!)

She‘s finding this guy is FUN and also somehow making her feel like she wants to GET this guy. He finishes the chat and goes back to his workout after getting her number or email or whatever.

But he doesn’t NEED to do this, and it’s OBVIOUS from the way he came across.
She’s just ONE MORE OPTION.

Trust me, women NOTICE which guy is sending out CREEPY, NEEDY, DESPERATE, WEIRD VIBES.

And which guys are NOT.

Not only is self-esteem sexy in the sense it shows you believe you have worth and that you MUST have worth, but it also gives you the ENERGY to IMPROVE yourself in infinite ways that are attractive as well, whether that improvement is through reading, hobbies, exercise, education, or an infinite variety of other things.