Self Confidence Building and Self Esteem in Dating

The  first step in building self confidence and self esteem is to just accept yourself for what you are. No one is perfect in the world so why do we want ourselves to be perfect and worry when we are not. Totally accepting what we are is very liberating. Totally loving oneself is needed when dating as it is a glue that holds our self confidence together.

If we feel we lack in something, we get attracted to someone else that makes us feel complete, loved and wanted. Unfortunately this leads to a co dependent relationship based on need rather than joy. We attract a mate from the same level of differentiation  that we are.

Totally accepting yourself will leave you feeling light and joyful.  Break out of the cocoon of perfection to total acceptance. Leave the heavy baggage behind.

One of the best ways to build self confidence is to set yourself goals that are somewhat challenging. When you achieve these goals you will find you feel great inside and this really helps the self confidence build.

Unfortunately , most of us do not challenge ourselves everyday. We go for the safe option to avoid fear. There are a lot of challenges around dating. Asking a women out is challenging for a lot of men. The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. The idea is to begin with a small single step that can then further developed into giant strides.

Do today what you put of yesterday.

I suggest not to set up goals too challenging at first. Break goals up into small steps to reduce the change of failure. A series of big uncompleted task is a sure shot way to depression. Achieving goals gives a sense of achievement that boosts our confidence and equips us with more energy to try a bigger task. Dating can be challenging to our self esteem.